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   Don Kidd

   March 5, 2012, 11:17 am | # | Reply

   Ive had conversations like this with my ex-girlfriend. When we got together she was 23 and I was 40 and had experienced events she had heard about in history class or took for granted. Like the end of the Vietnam War, the speeches from Nixon during the Watergate Scandal, the first microwaves, birth of the PC, betamax then videotapes, cable tv, the migration of popular radio from AM to FM, etc.

   When you start talking about something and she says “I wasn’t even born yet”, the weight of your years hits you like a ton of bricks and makes you feel old and question whether or not being with someone so much younger is really right or not.

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     Don Kidd

     March 5, 2012, 11:24 am | # | Reply

     We lived together for almost 8 years and when we broke up, one of the barbs she slung at me in our last argument was, “You stole my 20’s from me.” To which I responded, “No, you willingly gave them to me.”

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       Ken

       March 5, 2012, 11:32 am | # | Reply

       I made damned good and sure my second wife was just about my age … and for the reasons you’ve noted.

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2. 
   Slamlander

   March 6, 2012, 8:41 am | # | Reply

   I’ve done it both ways:
   1 my 1st wife was a few years older
   2 my 2d wide was 3 weeks younger
   3 my 3d and current wife is 14 years younger.

   In all prior cases the common factor was divorce, there is no way that you can play that right except to survive it. Whatever you do going in, will be wrong going out. Accept that and move on.

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   Col klink

   September 6, 2012, 3:11 pm | # | Reply

   Close in age works better than large gap, although less relevant as the percentage vs your actual age gets smaller. 5 years at age 20 is a lot more serious than 5 at 80.

   We are six months apart, whic means lots of common cultural bg (“do you remember X? I loved that” “me too”). And occasional bit of odd dissonance (“you watched way more tv than me and you never heard of this?”)

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